Obituary of Phyllis "Chic" LaPaglia
Phyllis LaPaglia (née Chicarelli, affectionately known as “Chic” to some), 71, a resident of Wayne, NJ, died February 13, 2022 surrounded by her loving family.
Truly selfless people do not act out of pride or a grand desire to be noticed. Never do the truly selfless seek reward or recognition. Selflessness is not an aspiration to please people. It is a desire to be there when someone needs you, no matter what, no matter when, and without regard to how hard things can get. In her actions, in her daily activity, Phyllis placed the needs and wants of her friends, family, and all those she loved above her own. This is the essence of who Phyllis was—this is who she always was.
Quick to make you laugh, Phyllis valued resiliency in the face of adversity and could be relied upon to inspire it in others. She appreciated compassion and action in helping others, and always exhibited a fierce loyalty to family and friends. A loving wife and mother who inspired and earned eternal gratitude from her children and spouse, and a deeply devoted friend to many, Phyllis was steadfast to those who earned her trust and love. At 5' 0" on her very best day and weighing in at a consistent 90 pounds, she would cast a shadow twice that—those who would underestimate this woman based upon stature would do so at their own peril. As the saying goes, you may take the girl out of Mulberry Street, but you can't take Mulberry Street out of the girl.
With little tolerance for complacency and even less for apathy and idleness, Phyllis instilled in her beloved sons perseverance, assertiveness, and what commitment means. She was not just a motivating force for the family; she was its heartbeat. Her love was strong and commanded it in return. She was the proverbial glue that held us together. But what she may have valued most was the ability to endure, and in that value we find what may be her ultimate lesson to those she touched. Change and loss travel together; everything given to us in life is also lost. The redemption of this loss comes from the values that we will continue to serve.
Phyllis is survived by her spouse of 48 years, Robert, her two sons Robert and Jason and her cousin Phyllis Taormina. Phyllis was predeceased by her father Joseph, her mother Josephine (“Josie”), her sister Beatrice Chicarelli, and her cousin Salvatore Puleo.
Memorial visitation will be held from 5 pm to 8 pm on Wednesday, March 30 at the M. John Scanlan Funeral Home, Pompton Plains. A memorial service will be held during the visitation at 7 pm.
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